Prince Harry, the Duke of Sussex, has been candid about the struggles he faced with his former longtime girlfriend, Chelsy Davy, whose relationship with him ultimately ended due to the pressures of royal life.
In his memoir Spare, Harry reveals that Davy, with whom he had an on-again, off-again relationship for several years, was deeply concerned about the demands of life within the Royal Family and the unrelenting scrutiny from the press.
Harry’s relationship with Davy was one of the most significant of his young adult life.
The two first met in 2004, and despite their apparent affection for each other, the relationship was frequently tested by the realities of Harry’s royal duties.
Their split in 2011 was a turning point for Harry, who realized that the weight of his royal responsibilities might prevent him from finding lasting love outside the institution.
Chelsy Davy, a Zimbabwean-born businesswoman, was Harry’s girlfriend for much of his twenties. Their relationship spanned seven years, but it was punctuated by frequent breaks due to the strain of royal life.
Davy, although fond of Harry, struggled with the idea of marrying into a life that would demand intense public attention and require major sacrifices.
In Spare, Harry reflects on the final days of his relationship with Davy. He admits that one of the main reasons for their breakup was the intense pressure that came with being a royal girlfriend.
The tipping point came in 2011, around the time of Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding.
The grandeur and global attention surrounding the event highlighted for Davy just how overwhelming life within the Royal Family could be.
Harry writes, “In 2011, after more comings and goings, she finally decided to go—and it was, ironically, Kate and William’s grand and glorious wedding that spring that did it for her. According to a friend, she told me that she could never make the sacrifices she had witnessed Kate making, particularly when it came to moulding her life around the unremitting attention of the press.”
Throughout their relationship, Davy was a frequent target of the British press.
She was often followed by paparazzi, her every move scrutinized and critiqued by tabloids, much like the treatment later experienced by Meghan Markle.
Davy’s independent nature and career aspirations made the prospect of giving up her personal freedom to live in the royal spotlight even more daunting.
While she had feelings for Harry, the idea of sacrificing her privacy and subjecting herself to the constant glare of the media was a dealbreaker.
Harry recalls in his memoir how Davy was visibly distressed by the thought of living a life like Kate’s, who had to adapt to the strict protocols of royal life and the relentless coverage by the press.
“She explained that she wasn’t built for it,” Harry writes, reflecting on how Davy couldn’t envision herself surviving the constant media scrutiny.
Davy’s decision was clear: she valued her personal freedom and privacy too much to make the sacrifices that a royal marriage would demand.
Although they broke up in 2011, Harry and Davy remained friends, with many hoping they would reconcile.
However, Davy’s feelings about royal life only intensified in 2014, when she watched media coverage of Prince William and Kate Middleton’s royal tour of New Zealand with their young son, Prince George.
In his memoir, Harry recalls how Davy was “completely spooked” by the media frenzy surrounding the tour.
Watching the royal couple navigate the demands of their public life while caring for a baby made Davy more resolute in her decision to step away from royal life.
According to Harry, Davy told him that seeing William and Kate on tour with Prince George confirmed her fears.
“That was not the way she would want to enjoy her eight-month-old son,” she told Harry, expressing regret that she couldn’t follow him into royal life but also reaffirming her desire for a different future.
After the breakup with Davy, Harry moved on with another high-profile relationship, dating model and actress Cressida Bonas. Like Davy, Bonas also struggled with the pressures of royal life and media attention, leading to their eventual split in 2014.
Harry’s romantic history during this period was characterized by a series of relationships that were strained by the demands of his royal duties and public life.
It wasn’t until he met Meghan Markle, a former actress from the U.S., that Harry found someone willing to navigate the royal spotlight with him.
Harry and Meghan’s engagement was announced in 2017, and the couple married in 2018.
Despite their fairy-tale wedding, the same media pressures that had haunted Harry’s previous relationships continued to plague him and Meghan, leading to their eventual decision to step back from royal duties and relocate to North America.
After her relationship with Prince Harry ended, Chelsy Davy returned to her private life, focusing on her career and staying largely out of the media spotlight.
She has since established herself as a successful businesswoman, founding a luxury jewelry line called Aya.
Davy has maintained a low profile when it comes to her personal life, and although she has spoken fondly of Harry in past interviews, she has remained tight-lipped about their relationship in recent years.
In interviews, Davy has hinted that the media scrutiny she faced during her time with Harry was overwhelming, and she expressed relief at being able to live her life away from the public eye.
Prince Harry’s relationship with Chelsy Davy offers insight into the emotional toll that royal life can take on personal relationships.
For Harry, losing Davy was one of the many consequences of being a member of the Royal Family.
While their romance didn’t survive the pressures of public life, Harry’s reflections on the relationship in Spare reveal his understanding of Davy’s decision.
In the end, both Harry and Davy have moved on to different chapters in their lives, but their relationship serves as a poignant reminder of the sacrifices required for those who choose to step into the royal spotlight.
