{"id":40057,"date":"2025-10-03T18:34:48","date_gmt":"2025-10-03T18:34:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usdailys.com\/?p=40057"},"modified":"2025-10-03T18:34:48","modified_gmt":"2025-10-03T18:34:48","slug":"who-is-taylor-swifts-song-ruin-the-friendship-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usdailys.com\/?p=40057","title":{"rendered":"Who Is Taylor Swift’s Song ‘Ruin the Friendship’ About?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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On Friday, the pop star dropped her 12th studio album, The Life of a Showgirl<\/em>, and as per usual, Swifties immediately took to social media to react and decode <\/strong><\/a>Taylor’s lyrics. The sixth track, “Ruin the Friendship,” had fans in their feels, with the emotional lyrics referencing Swift’s secret crush on a close high school friend, whom she reveals later passed away.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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After the track list was announced, many Swifties initially suspected the song would focus on an alleged falling out with Blake Lively, however, following the track’s release, fans believe the track is about Taylor’s childhood friend, Jeff Lang, who tragically passed away at 21 in 20210 following battles with depression and addiction.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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In the soft pop track, Swift sings about a friend in high school, whom she has feelings for, and expresses her regret that she never took the opportunity to kiss him before he died — even though he had a girlfriend.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“It was not \/ an invitation \/ but should have kissed you anyway \/ And it was not convenient \/ But your girlfriend was away \/ Should have kissed you anyway,” Taylor sings the chorus.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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In the bridge, she laments about losing touch with her friend after high school, before Abigail, Swift’s longtime BFF, called her and said the friend had passed away.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“When I left school, I lost track of you \/ Abigail called me with the bad news \/ Goodbye, and we\u2019ll never know why,” she sings. “It was not an invitation \/ But I flew home anyway \/ With so much left to say \/ It was not convenient, no \/ But I whispered it at the grave \/ \u2018Should\u2019ve kissed you anyway.'”<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Swift ends the song by sharing that she wished she had “ruin[ed] the friendship” by making a move and telling her crush how she felt.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“My advice is always ruin the friendship \/ Better that than regret it \/ For all time,” she sings. “Should\u2019ve kissed you anyway \/ And my advice is always answer the question \/ Better that than to ask it \/ All your life.”<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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As previously mentioned, fans speculate that the song is about her late friend, Jeff Lang. Back in 2010, Taylor opened up about losing Lang during her acceptance speech 2010 BMI Country Music Awards<\/strong><\/a>. At the time, a then-20-year-old Swift revealed she performed at her close friend’s funeral the day before.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“Yesterday, I sang at the funeral of one of my best friends,” she said. “And he was 21, and I used to play my songs for him first. So I would like to thank Jeff Lang.”<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Swift is believed to have previously referenced Lang in the 2021 <\/strong>Red (Taylor’s Version)<\/strong><\/em> vault track, “Forever Winter,”<\/strong><\/a> something fans pointed out following The Life of a Showgirl’s<\/em> release.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“WAIT RUIN THE FRIENDSHIP???? IS THIS A CONTINUATION OF FOREVER WINTER?????? I CANNOT DO THIS RN,” a Swiftie wrote on X.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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“ruin the friendship being forever winter 2.0. i am not okay,” a second fan said, while another wrote, “Ruin the Friendship is connected to Forever Winter and I\u2019m sobbing.”<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Ultimately, “Ruin the Friendship” made Swifties emotional, with fans sharing that they were surprised by the gut-wrenching track.
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\n<\/a>“Ruin The Friendship has an absolutely devastating plot twist I literally did not see coming at ALL,” a fan wrote, as another noted, “ruin the friendship being about someone passing away was not on my bingo card.”<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Read the full lyrics<\/strong><\/a>, below:<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Verse 1<\/strong>
\nGlistening grass from September rain
\nGray overpass full of neon names
\nYou drive (Mm-mm), 85 (Mm-mm)
\nGallatin Road and the lakeside beach
\nWatching the game from your brother\u2019s Jeep
\nYour smile (Mm-mm), miles wide<\/p>\n

Chorus<\/strong>
\nAnd it was not an invitation
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway
\nAnd it was not convenient, no
\nBut your girlfriend was away
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway, hey<\/p>\n

Verse 2<\/strong>
\nShiny wood floors underneath my feet
\nDisco ball makes everything look cheap
\nHave fun (Mm-mm), it\u2019s prom (Mm-mm)
\nWilted corsage dangles from my wrist
\nOver his shoulder, I catch a glimpse
\nAnd see (Mm-mm)
\nYou looking at me<\/p>\n

Chorus<\/strong>
\nAnd it was not an invitation
\nBut as th\u0435 50 Cent song played (Song played)
\nShould\u2019v\u0435 kissed you anyway (Anyway)
\nAnd it was not convenient, no (It was not, convenient)
\nWould\u2019ve been the best mistake
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway, hey<\/p>\n

Refrain<\/strong>
\nDon\u2019t make it awkward in second period
\nMight piss your ex off, lately we\u2019ve been good
\nStaying friends is safe, doesn\u2019t mean you should
\nDon\u2019t make it awkward in second period
\nMight piss your ex off, lately we\u2019ve been good
\nStaying friends is safe, doesn\u2019t mean you should<\/p>\n

Bridge<\/strong>
\nWhen I left school, I lost track of you
\nAbigail called me with the bad news
\nGoodbye, and we\u2019ll never know why
\nIt was not an invitation
\nBut I flew home anyway
\nWith so much left to say
\nIt was not convenient, no
\nBut I whispered at the grave
\n\u201cShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway\u201d<\/p>\n

Chorus<\/strong>
\nOh, and it was not an invitation (It was not, an invitation)
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway (Anyway)
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway, anyway (Anyway)<\/p>\n

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\nAnd it was not\u2014
\nMy advice is always ruin the friendship
\nBetter that than regret it for all time
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway
\nAnd my advice is always answer the question
\nBetter that than to ask it all your life
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway
\nShould\u2019ve kissed you anyway<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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The Life of a Showgirl <\/em>is out now.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n

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Taylor Swift <\/a> Blake Lively <\/a> #music <\/a><\/section>\n

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