{"id":16734,"date":"2024-12-20T21:43:18","date_gmt":"2024-12-20T21:43:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/usdailys.com\/?p=16734"},"modified":"2024-12-20T21:43:18","modified_gmt":"2024-12-20T21:43:18","slug":"reading-this-made-me-cry-users-react-to-ethan-slaters-ex-wifes-devastating-article-about-her-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/usdailys.com\/?p=16734","title":{"rendered":"‘Reading This Made Me Cry’: Users React to Ethan Slater’s Ex-wife’s ‘Devastating’ Article About Her Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Caught in the whirlwind of personal heartbreak and public scrutiny, Ethan Slater’s ex-wife has laid bare the intimate challenges of life after divorce in a poignant account that has garnered significant attention online.<\/p>\n

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Dr. Lilly Jay, a clinical psychologist specializing in perinatal mental health, has shared a heartfelt essay detailing the profound impact of her public divorce from Ethan Slater. Her account explores the complexities of motherhood, career struggles, and the impact of her ex-husband’s new relationship with Ariana Grande, offering reflections that have deeply resonated with readers.<\/p>\n

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“No one gets married thinking they’ll get divorced, in the same way we don’t board a plane expecting to crash,” she\u00a0wrote.<\/a>\u00a0Jay revealed how the breakdown of her marriage\u2014shortly after the birth of their son\u2014forced her to confront both personal heartbreak and professional challenges.<\/p>\n

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“I really never thought I would get divorced. Especially not just after giving birth to my first child and especially not in the shadow of my husband’s new relationship with a celebrity.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater on November 14, 2024, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Jay recounted the transformative experience of becoming a mother, describing her son’s arrival as a moment of unparalleled relief and joy. “When my baby was first placed on my chest, still tethered to me by his umbilical cord, I sobbed with relief. We had done it. He had arrived,” she\u00a0shared.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on December 4, 2017, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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After surviving preeclampsia, a life-threatening birth complication, she believed her family was finally whole. But the months following her son’s birth marked the beginning of an unexpected unraveling.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Despite her understanding of how vulnerable marriages can be in the postpartum period, Jay\u00a0said<\/a>\u00a0she “confidently moved to another country with my 2-month-old baby and my husband to support his career.” However, amid the magic and mundanity of new motherhood, she admitted, “I didn’t understand the growing distance between us.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on June 4, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Motherhood, Jay explained, became both a sanctuary and a space for processing her grief. While she cherished the quiet moments spent rocking her son to sleep, pushing his stroller, and marveling at his little hands gripping crayons, these hours also became an opportunity for her to\u00a0grapple with<\/a>\u00a0the “sudden public downfall” of her marriage.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater on June 08, 2024, in Sunrise, Florida | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Over time, Jay shared that she has come to believe that even without the life she envisioned with her high-school sweetheart, a future filled with joy and sweetness awaits her and her child.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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“Days with my son are sunny,” she\u00a0emphasized,<\/a>\u00a0but darker moments emerge when reminders of her ex-husband’s life resurface. “Days when I can’t escape the promotion of a movie associated with the saddest days of my life are darker.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Jon M. Chu, Cynthia Erivo, Ariana Grande, Ethan Slater, and Peter Dinklage on December 03, 2024, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Despite the challenges, Jay emphasized that their mutual love for their child remains a steadfast source of strength. She explained that while their partnership has evolved, their role as parents has not, with both continuing to love their son wholeheartedly, regardless of how their parenting time is shared.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater on June 4, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Dr. Jay’s professional life as a therapist was built on maintaining strict personal boundaries, allowing her patients to feel connected through care rather than personal details. This balance was shattered by the publicity surrounding her divorce.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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She noted that her anonymity at the Children’s Hospital had once served as a shield from difficult conversations with her patients, but the exposure of her private life brought new challenges tied to her unexpected visibility.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on June 4, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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The public exposure brought professional challenges, including the loss of a job offer and the vanishing of potential patients after another tabloid cycle. “It’s hard to measure an absence, and I can’t say for sure how much my career has been impacted by what’s out there online,” Jay\u00a0revealed.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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She reflected on how her story might impact patients’ trust, likening it to asking, “Who would trust a cardiologist who had a heart attack?”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater on June 10, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Despite her doubts, Jay chose to view her vulnerability as a potential strength rather than a weakness, noting that being seen as vulnerable could serve as a point of connection rather than a professional drawback.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on November 5, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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In a powerful conclusion, Jay framed her story as a way to connect with those she has helped and continues to help. I’m sorry I can’t be invisible anymore (really, more than you know, I’m sorry),” she\u00a0wrote<\/a>\u00a0in her December 19 account.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Dr. Jay reflected on the inherent strength of those navigating similar struggles. “Knowing what you now know, I can say with both personal and professional authority, you are so much stronger than you assume.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater and Lilly Jay on June 4, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Jay also encouraged readers to hold onto the qualities they cherish most in others,\u00a0reminding<\/a>\u00a0them, “Some of what you loved most about your partner was actually your own goodness reflected back to you; it’s yours to keep and carry forward.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater on June 10, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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She\u00a0concluded<\/a>\u00a0with a poignant call to release fear and embrace the future. “I’d tell you (and myself) to let go of the worries \u2014 our anxious minds are creative but not particularly good guessers about the future.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Jay’s essay has sparked an emotional response online. Many readers expressed their admiration and empathy for her story, while others criticized Slater.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater on June 10, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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On Reddit, one user\u00a0wrote,<\/a>\u00a0“You can tell she’s intelligent and kind from her writing. So devastating. I hope Arianna breaks up with him soon and he’s known as a total loser. Probably by this time next year when [sic] press is all done.”<\/i><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Another\u00a0reflected,<\/a>\u00a0“‘Days when I can’t escape the promotion of a movie associated with the saddest days of my life are darker’ \u2014 this line. Oof [sic], I can’t imagine.”<\/i><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater, Jeff Goldblum, Ariana Grande, Cynthia Erivo, and Jonathan Bailey on November 9, 2024, in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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“Me too. Reading this made me cry thinking how broken I would feel if I were in her shoes,”\u00a0<\/i>a third user\u00a0added.<\/a>\u00a0“So upsetting \ud83d\ude14,”\u00a0<\/i>commented<\/a>\u00a0another. One more user\u00a0praised<\/a>\u00a0Jay’s resilience,\u00a0“What an amazing woman. I felt such sadness reading this but it was also so empowering. She’s gone through so much. Dr. Lilly Jay you are incredible.”<\/i><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Another user\u00a0added,<\/a>\u00a0“Such a beautiful article, it really brought tears to my eyes. You can feel the pain and suffering in her words. I hope she heals, she seems like an incredible soul.”<\/i><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater on June 10, 2018, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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On X, a user simply\u00a0remarked,<\/a>\u00a0“that piece from ethan slater’s ex wife is a devastating read wow [sic].”<\/i><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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The public unraveling of their relationship came to a head on July 26, 2023, when Slater\u00a0filed for divorce<\/a>\u00a0from Jay in New York, as reported by TMZ. Legal documents obtained by the outlet did not specify the reason for the split, but the timing aligned with reports of his new relationship with Grande.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater on November 14, 2024, in New York City | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Grande, 31, and Slater, 32, began dating after meeting on the set of\u00a0“Wicked.”<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>Sources close to the couple claimed both were single when their relationship started.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Slater, born on June 2, 1992, in Washington, D.C., is an\u00a0actor and writer<\/a>\u00a0known for his work in “The SpongeBob Musical: Live on Stage!” (2019), “Fosse\/Verdon” (2019), and “Wicked” (2024).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ethan Slater on November 05, 2024, in Sydney, Australia | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Slater’s role in “Wicked” places him alongside stars like\u00a0Ariana Grande,<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>Cynthia Erivo,<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>and Michelle Yeoh, with\u00a0the story<\/a>\u00a0exploring the bond between Elphaba, a misunderstood young woman, and Glinda, a popular girl at Shiz University.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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By September 2023, Slater and Grande stepped out publicly as a couple, choosing Walt Disney World as their first public outing together. TMZ reported that they tried to remain inconspicuous, donning hats and hoodies, but fans quickly noticed them strolling arm in arm.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater on June 08, 2024, in Sunrise, Florida | Source: Getty Images<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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A source close to Grande\u00a0revealed<\/a>\u00a0that the couple was “really happy together” and “really good for each other,” with the “Into You” singer’s friends expressing approval of the relationship.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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While Slater and Grande’s relationship continues to make headlines, Dr. Jay’s reflections focus on her journey through motherhood, career challenges, and resilience, resonating with readers who have shared their empathy and support for her story.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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